Can She Forgive And Forget? Can He?

Who hasn’t been there?

Anyone over the age of 12 must have at some point in time been hurt by someone or had things go so badly that it left their head spinning. To forgive is Divine, so I’ve been told, and so should that mean humans aren’t expected to forgive? Good question.

It’s easy to get mad at someone, lose our cool and sound off. But it’s not so easy to admit it when we’ve been stupid or ignored someone who was actually amazingly wonderful. Whew. That’s a tough one!

So if you’ve been on either side of this situation – the one hurt or the one doling out the bs, this is probably sounding very familiar to you.

How does this fit in?  

It’s a big part of life and if you want good fiction, the kind that makes you think and feel and live the story over again every time you read it, then you’ll want real, honest to God, human interaction throughout the entire book.

Connie, Richard, Margaret, Nora, Tracy, and all of my CounterClockwise players, go through various levels of pain and suffering as they journey through life. In some instances they do indeed forgive and forget.

But other times they do not. Cannot. It’s too big and too — damn hurtful. 

To forgive and forget is not all.

Some things are too much to expect either forgiving or forgetting from anyone involved.

The truth of it is, that while you may reach down and forgive someone, and they forgive you back, it’s not possible to forget when what they did was life-changing.  But…..maybe that change can lead to a happy ending. Possibly.

What can be done?  Is it hopeless?  

What can be done is first to apologize.  Big time.  Mean it.  Reach down into your gut and go down to the bone and say “I am so freaking sorry it hurts.”

That won’t be all.  But it will get the other person’s attention.  And if you’re real lucky, it will begin to ease the pain from the wound you inflicted.

Nothing is ever completely hopeless.  Look at David and Goliath.  So even when that special someone has been a total asshole, repeatedly, there is room for hope.  It all depends on how much they mean that apology, and last but not least, how much they are still in your heart.  Sigh.  

Expect my leads to go through hard soul-searching and reaching a point of no return when it comes to what they feel and what they decide to do.

Change is in the wind. And it’s blowing very hard in my CounterClockwise Paranormal Romance Series, beginning with book #2 “Connie and Richard”.


4 Comments Add yours

  1. chella says:

    EXTREMELY hard to do. The bad stuff just keeps rearing its head over and over. You have to be very strong and very much in love to even consider it. So far the whole taking back thing has not worked for me.


  2. NO FREAKIN’ WAY DUDE!……Just saying LOL


  3. Jill says:

    Yea it’s hard to do. I’m at the point of saying judge it on a case by case basis. Someone out there probably deserves forgiveness.


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